Escalation: Finding the Thing Before the Thing.

It feels like you wake up in the middle of a movie, one of those thriller-action plots that have too many stunts and special effects, and your horse is the star. He is peeling out in a dead run. What’s happening? It takes a minute to recognize you might be in the saddle and in a panic, too. Out of control and frozen with fear, with no idea how the movie began, not that it matters, because it’s too late to get off now. The two of you are hurtling toward one of those James Bond-like stunt sequences but with none of the cool. Your lips are stuck up on your gums and you have a death grip on the reins. Your horse is bathed in a panic sweat and feels like he might spontaneously combust underneath you. No one is breathing, you’re moving fast enough to feel an alarming headwind, and neither of you has any idea how you got here. Oh wait, you remember now. You walked your horse to the mounting block and climbed on totally by choice. After that, everyone followed their instinct.

If you aren’t a rider yet, consider the facts. Horses are thousand-pound flight animals. It isn’t a choice to panic, it’s by design. Their limbic system in the amygdala can engage the motor system (make their legs run) before the prefrontal cortex has evaluated the threat. Or in more comprehensible terms, the route the message takes in the brain is literally shorter to panic than it is to think about it rationally. Horses are hardwired to panic, no surprise. It’s the definition of being a flight animal, after all. Once a horse is in his flight, fight, or freeze mode, his sympathetic nervous system, neither of you can pretend otherwise.

If you aren’t a rider yet, you can use your rational mind, think this through, and then take up gardening. If you already have horses, there have been some changes to your brain chemistry, kind of like an aftermarket accessory. We still have rational thought in our frontal lobes, but not about horses.

Humans have a similar autonomic nervous system to horses. We both panic, but there are two big differences. We will never be as good at running and we have a frontal cortex which means we can think (overthink) about what happened. Some riders plead random chaos. Out of nowhere, the horse just bucked or bolted, which is the easy answer. Not true, of course.

The rest of us try to unravel the event because there is always the thing before the thing. Like Equine CSI officers, still not as dashing and romantic as on tv, we sift through the debris for a path backward. But since this is real life, there is no tape to replay, so we look for the tiny thing before each of the increasingly larger thing that started the domino effect to disaster. It was all fine and then it wasn’t, but if we can deconstruct what happened back to the place just before everything escalated, perhaps we could help our horse in that instant and defuse the event before it happens. And we have finally found a good reason for overthinking.

Horse people always say less is more. The sooner you can sense the problem, the smaller it is and the easier to resolve. Working small has less drama and emotion to the horse and to you. And perhaps you realize that beyond the uncontrollable physical environment, there is a realm you can negotiate with. The runaway that you had was emotional. It was your energy that bolted. If horses are never really under control, and they aren’t, then is there a way to gain control our energy? Because it always comes back to self-responsibility. If we want a different result with a horse, we must change ourselves first.

Prepare for an abrupt left turn.

Horses already think we are unpredictable and inconsistent; poor qualities in a predator you are trying to get along with. They are certainly smart enough to remember how much we love to escalate a situation on purpose. We do it, knowing that horses must involuntarily react, and then think if we do it long enough, we will somehow control fundamental equine brain/body function.

We think it’s smart to escalate cues in training. Clearly, we think we are god-like that we can hot-wire a response against instinct. The other word for that is dominate. But still, we do it. Perhaps it’s our predator instinct.

If the horse doesn’t take a cue, we give a larger one, and then a still larger one. The theory is that the horse will learn to take the smaller cue (the thing before the thing) to stop what feels to him like an emotional runaway his rider is having. That in this situation he will act against instinct and his fear will make him obey instead of fleeing. It makes no sense if you understand horses, but like other false ideas, if they are repeated often enough, they can seem true.

Escalating cues is sometimes referred to as a version of the “Ask, Tell, Make” slogan. It sounds totally logical to our frontal cortex. Of course, horses have a totally different brain structure than we do, but theoretically, we are the more advanced species, so we march on, with some success. Some horses appear to give to the pressure. Perhaps they are okay with it. Maybe they move past the flight choice, and the fight choice, and settle on the freeze option. Meaning they pull inside and shut down. They obey on the surface but there might be an unnatural stillness to their eyes.

On the horse side, he was probably in the process of rebalancing in preparation to take the cue when the second louder cues come. He knows what’s happening, so he flinches to protect himself from the coming pain from the third cue. But we see that as resistance.

Oh, how to partner with these beautiful creatures without fighting with them! Can we be addicted to horses but find a different, more supportive approach?

From Chief Joseph of the Nez Perce, “From where the sun now stands, I will fight no more forever.”  It’s a heartbreaking quote from a brilliant leader, and not about horses. But the Nez Perce tribe rode Appaloosas and I said something, much less poetic to an Appaloosa who taught me this lesson. It’s a choice: It’s possible to just stop fighting. It was a totally new concept that had to be the gelding’s idea. I’m a predator, it wouldn’t occur to me back then.

Does the “Ask, Tell, Make” slogan work well on you? Does intimidation make you compliant and grateful? Do threats like “I’ll give you something to cry about!” work well with children? Can domination make us dependable? Or just like horses, does it make us unreliable and sometimes participants in random chaos?

If we are the leaders, that means we go first. If the change has to begin with us, could we use our famed frontal cortex for something kinder than aggression? Finally, if it is a true partnership with horses that we seek, then we need to give them their voice back, along with their autonomy.

Ask, Breathe, Wait.

Anna Blake at Infinity Farm

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22 thoughts on “Escalation: Finding the Thing Before the Thing.”

  1. I LOVE your articles! Every single one I have read makes me feel something inside (often leaking out my eyes-ha!), and really think. You are a very talented author with a huge heart. Thank you very much for sharing those gifts.

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  2. I’ve read both of your books. I religiously follow “ask, breathe, wait.” Not just in the saddle but on the ground, it has created real conversations between my horse (Ryder) and me. Here’s one in words: I see Ryder’s herd has moved on but he’s waiting, having seen me walk toward the gate. He’s eating a mound of hay. He looks up, Hi, and then puts head down. I wait. He looks up again, as if to say, I see you but I want to munch a bit. OK. Then he says, I’m ready and walks over with a mouth of hay. I say, I bet you’d like to drink first. We walk over to trough. He says, thanks, I do. He drinks but I know he likes to wait a few seconds and take another drink. Repeat. He says he’ll step back from the trough when ready. He does. He bends for the halter. Yay! We each got what we wanted.

    But here’s something I didn’t understand. Ryder always looks into the small hay barn as we head back to gate to turn out. Last week, he stared into the barn and took a few steps (there was hay on a hay cart just inside). So I say ok, let’s check it out. On his own, he takes several small steps into the barn, voluntarily. I just go with him. He gets to cart and stretches his neck out to smell hay. I offer him a handful. He says no, then slowly backs out. Clearing the threshold, he leaps into the air like a 1000 lb kite. What the heck? Did he just have to release nervous energy? Was that, “I don’t believe I did that!” or Let’s never do that again!

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    • I can’t guess without seeing him. I do always know that they are live in the entire environment in a way our senses are not good enough to pick up. My guess is he was responding to something that went under your radar?? Again, I never substitute another’s eyes for mine, I have no idea. Thanks, Jean. Give Ryder a scratch from me.

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  3. I love that picture!!
    Yes…there is hope for us. We need to re-train our thinking and our ways with our horses. They are intelligent, have emotions and opinions, just like we do. In any relationship that works, there is always 2-way communication. Never can one side be the dominant in all situations. Maybe to over simplify, we can describe it as “picking our battles” or just letting them have their way sometimes. Why not? This isn’t warfare here, this is supposed to be fun…and there’s always another opportunity or another day to move past something. Whether it’s humans or horses, we always have to give them the time it takes to think through something and figure out what exactly it is that we’re asking of them. Ask. Breathe. Wait. You betcha. I believe that most horses just truly want to figure out the best way to get along with us. We usually pick the fights, not them; but there are exceptions. And if the horse is doing the fighting, he usually has a good reason for it. There’s always a story to tell that we’re usually unaware of. Regardless, we need to find a path to move forward together.
    Years ago, my mentor used to say after a mishap happened…”so, what exactly happened before what happened, happened?” And then he’d grin…and wait. He once signed my ball cap with this one word. “Think” Took me a long time to figure out why he chose that one word, but I think I finally get it.

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    • This site was introduced to me by a friend who attends clinics together in the fall. We are always searching for a better way. We want to draw closer to our horses and have a good willing partner. It needs to make sense to the horse. We can adjust, they can learn and hopefully, we go down the trail together of 1 mind. Thanks for the insight.

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  4. Ask. Breathe. Wait. I need to write this on my arm (or glove or coat), in big letters, every time I go out with my horses. And then be sure to say it out loud whenever anyone else is around me and my horses. Every time. Whew – extreme thanks, Anna.

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  5. I wish there was a love button! Loved everything and had a good giggle on the paragraph about riders brain chemistry being altered. Thanks Anna.

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  6. I may have to steal “Ask. Breathe. Wait.” 😉 I loved every word. And laughed in recognition of how my own lips have been stuck to my gums when a horse has a moment of unexpected lift off. Thank you for another wonderful blog!

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  7. In a way I’m grateful for the runaway that brought me to find a better way to be with my horse, and led me to finding your insight and teaching… thank you Anna !

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