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Making War on Horses: Is it Leadership?

By reader request: "Horses need a dominant leader; you have to make him respect you." "You can't let him get away...
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Sleeping With The Wrong Dog

Warning: This is not an upbeat rescue story. It's a sad story with a sad ending.  Proceed with caution. Or...
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Photo Challenge: Delta

Walking the washout, high desert ground between pond silt and prairie pasture, I know to look for crushed cans, bits...
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Caring for the Lead Mare

It was a perfect day. There were just enough clouds to soften the heat. The front gate didn't open once all day...
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Mounting Block Conversations

This is Andante. He likes to have a conversation at the mounting block. He wasn't always like this. In his...
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Photo Challenge: Dense

Stupid. Dense. Stubborn. Lazy. Until we stop seeing others in our own worst self-image, these words will describe us. .......
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Circling Back: How We Became One.

We were hooked and it was written all over us. The first weird looks passed between our parents. We were...
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Do You Communicate Like a Coyote?

Some of us baby-talk and cuddle our horses like they're twelve-hundred-pound teddy bears. Some of us enter the pen with...
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Climate Change: Not Just Bad for Polar Bears.

Farm kids, like me, learn early that a healthy anxiety about the weather is the subtext of every task--from lambing season, to...
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Safety and Being a Spoil Sport.

I'm a riding instructor. Wait, it's worse than that. A riding instructor who has read the small print of her liability...
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The Politics of Holiday Pie

Inconceivable: I'm going to share my pie recipe. I'll pause and give my friends time to pick themselves up. They know...
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Photo Challenge: It’s Not This Time of Year Without…

  bucking tradition: when seasonal words don't fit when obligation overwhelms desire when some mourn or have none or do not when the...
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The Passion to Punish

First, last, and always, this is the truth about communication with animals: Punishment is the lowest form of expression. A...
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Winterizing the Compassion Fatigue. Again.

Chatting lightly about weather is considered the tiniest of small talk, unless you live outside the urban bubble. We take...
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The Fine Art of Cantankery.

I've had a hard time acting my age. That's not it, exactly. It's more like I'm straddling the Grand Canyon...
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A Trailer of One's Own

A horsewoman told me that, at sixty-three, she was the proud owner of her very first horse trailer. I let...
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Money: If Wishes were Horses…

"How much does a horse cost? Do you have to be rich to own one?" I can tell you how...
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Weekly Photo Challenge: Pure

Not politics, religion; not money or guns. Answer deep and pure, in our heart, soul; our Earth and Sun. ~~~Read...
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