Book Release: Going Steady, More Relationship Advice from Your Horse

Tada! It’s here!

Going Steady, More Relationship Advice from Your Horse is now available.

Find the links for ordering through Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and getting signed copies.


Going Steady takes up where Relaxed & Forward, Relationship Advice from Your Horse, left off. These bite-sized essays on affirmative horse training, rescue stories, and “gray mare” thoughts are geared toward encouraging creative, affirmative partnerships. Blake’s writing uses clear descriptions, a joy of storytelling, and some sideways humor to inspire meaningful, positive communication. Sometimes irreverent but always honest and horse-centric:

  • What you have to offer is more than enough and your horse is just as magical as he ever was.
  • Leadership is a humble service given with kindness. Security exists when both sides truly understand that for trust to exist, there is no place for intimidation.
  • In riding, don’t be fooled by smoke and lights. Anyone can spur a horse into speed and jerk them to a halt. If you want to know true connection, look for partnership between the movements. Because the art is always in the transition.
  • Be the change you want to see in your horse. If he is hot, you cool your body movements. If he is reluctant to walk, you lighten and lift your body movements. Correct yourself.
  • Let’s redefine leadership as the one who breathes and smiles the most: Let an inhale relax your body, let an exhale leave soft shoulders and a soft belly. Let a smile give you a soft jaw.
  • Be seriously patient and your horse will offer his heart. Be seriously grateful and it will change your heart. Most of all, be seriously lighthearted because horses like us that way.
  • The arc of a horse’s life (or our own) doesn’t look like a golden rainbow. It looks more like the jagged readout of a heart monitor. There are ups and downs in each heartbeat. It’s how you can tell we’re alive.
Relaxed & Forward Training is firmly rooted in the principles of authentic Dressage; training relaxed and forward gaits with responsiveness and balance for the horse and rider. I combine this with a special focus on listening to Calming Signals, the natural language of the horse, for a partnership of understanding, confidence, and pleasure. I take horses and riding very seriously, but I do it with humor and lightness because horses like happy riders.
Published by Prairie Moon Press, now politely asking for reviews online. It’s the only way small indies like us can compete. Think of it as a vote for the audacity to try.
Thank you so much for your time, loyalty, and kindness.
Here’s to horses!

Anna Blake at Infinity Farm

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9 thoughts on “Book Release: Going Steady, More Relationship Advice from Your Horse”

  1. Yay, made a nice cup of tea – grabbed my iPad & went to order the kindle edition, for a nice Labor Day read. Alas a lesson in patience, no kindle edition – but amazon prime says Thursday delivery. I will chase the UPS guy or girl down the he road on Thursday – so looking forward to reading this.


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