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Seriously Lighthearted

Do you ever get the impression that your show up at the barn and your horse is watching you with...
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Big Dreams, Low Expectations

I've become a real party-pooper when it comes to talented young horses. It isn't that I can't see the potential;...
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Trust: A Suspension of Disbelief.

You love horses. No, you really, really love horses. Because they are so amazing. We share videos of blind horses cared...
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Circles: A Soft Bend

I'd led a sheltered life. I was thirty years old before I visited my first Saddlebred barn. I was just...
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The Middle Path: Why Gaits Matter

Let's say you like to jump and so does your Arabian. Let's say you do endurance on an Appaloosa. Let’s...
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Photo Challenge & Poem: Rounded

  The whorl beneath a forelock, the velvet comma nostrils, the curve of a neck, the serpentine of a spine,...
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Riding the Middle: My Horse is Lazy.

My horse is lazy. He won't go forward. He doesn't listen to my legs no matter what. Do I need...
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Too Much Love: Is it Partnership?

Last week I answered a reader question about Making War on Horses and it got a predictably positive reception. It's...
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Escape the Death Spiral: Asking For a Step.

Let me begin by defining a death spiral. It's asking a horse to do something he just avoided, by circling...
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Photo Challenge: Layered

  It began with a word so small and unspoken that it waited in a bitter slick at the back...
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Helmets: When Complacency and Experience are Killers.

"She had a helmet on and she still got hurt," the woman said. Well, sure. I take vitamins and I'm still...
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How to be a Brilliant Conversationalist: Horse Version

You know how the cat magically goes to the person with the allergy? Or she goes the person who happens...
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Leadership Percentages and Confused Horses

Pause here. Look in his eye. He's sensitive and intelligent and looking for a partner who's his equal. If we're...
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How to Relieve Your Horse's Anxiety

Growing up, only one person in our home was allowed to have a temper and the rest of us kept...
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Redefining Work Under Saddle.

I had a blog request, in two parts. First: "[Does] training and working a horse inherently make a horse less...
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Part Three: Riding Above Fear

This is what we knew then: It started with a dream of dancing hooves and a flowing mane. He was...
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Things to Not Say When Someone’s Horse Dies.

I've been tinkering with this essay since my Grandfather Horse died five years ago, but it would have been ungrateful...
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Part Two: Now I'm Afraid

[Part One: My Horse Betrayed Me.] Something bad happened. The details don't need to be repeated for me to understand. It...
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