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Big Dreams, Low Expectations

I've become a real party-pooper when it comes to talented young horses. It isn't that I can't see the potential;...
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Trust: A Suspension of Disbelief.

You love horses. No, you really, really love horses. Because they are so amazing. We share videos of blind horses cared...
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Circles: A Soft Bend

I'd led a sheltered life. I was thirty years old before I visited my first Saddlebred barn. I was just...
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Making War on Horses: Is it Leadership?

By reader request: "Horses need a dominant leader; you have to make him respect you." "You can't let him get away...
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Escape the Death Spiral: Asking For a Step.

Let me begin by defining a death spiral. It's asking a horse to do something he just avoided, by circling...
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How to be a Brilliant Conversationalist: Horse Version

You know how the cat magically goes to the person with the allergy? Or she goes the person who happens...
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Leadership Percentages and Confused Horses

Pause here. Look in his eye. He's sensitive and intelligent and looking for a partner who's his equal. If we're...
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How to Relieve Your Horse's Anxiety

Growing up, only one person in our home was allowed to have a temper and the rest of us kept...
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Redefining Work Under Saddle.

I had a blog request, in two parts. First: "[Does] training and working a horse inherently make a horse less...
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Part Three: Riding Above Fear

This is what we knew then: It started with a dream of dancing hooves and a flowing mane. He was...
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Part Two: Now I'm Afraid

[Part One: My Horse Betrayed Me.] Something bad happened. The details don't need to be repeated for me to understand. It...
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Photo Challenge: Unusual

It's not unusual to feel still air rush over your cheeks and past your ears. It's you moving forward in...
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Bit or Bitless? You Won’t Like the Answer.

Does anyone agree on bits? No. Is riding bitless the perfect solution? No. I've been asked for some bitless information,...
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Concept Clinics: A different approach

I've been thinking for a while now about the process of learning. It could have something to do with the number...
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Bend… Like a Crescent Moon.

I arrived at the barn mid-fight. The barn manager was refereeing a dust-up between a trainer and a boarder who...
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Touchy About Bits.

Confession #1: There was a time that I would have sold my soul for a spade bit with 12" shanks....
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Touchy About Contact

Question from a reader with a mouth-sensitive green horse: " ...when I watch a video of me riding I worry that...
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Circling Back: How We Became One.

We were hooked and it was written all over us. The first weird looks passed between our parents. We were...
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