Altering Time to Benefit Your Horse

You have a plan for your horse and an expectation of how it will go, but it’s taking way too long. It’s a simple task. Maybe you’ve seen someone else do the same thing easily, so you lose confidence. You’re probably doing something wrong. If you were doing it right, your horse would do the task. You know being in a hurry is a mistake, so you go still. You aren’t the sort to get loud and angry, so instead, you get quiet and willful. Check your watch, it’s taking forever. Your horse knows how to do this thing. It could be taking the bit or loading in the trailer or getting over a near-pathological fear of something foolish to be afraid of.

You are determined to take the time it takes and as you stare at him resisting, you barely notice that your jaw is set. Because you can’t pretend you don’t have responsibilities away from horses. Because for as much as you love your horse, you are at a loss. You don’t want to force things but you’re not sure how to improve the situation. You don’t have all day. It’s just the truth and that’s the good news, because more hours in this stalemate isn’t going to help either of you.

Something has to give. Have you considered changing your concept of time? How often is time your enemy? We measure time precisely but that might be an effort to make up for the fact that time is also nebulous. Time is how we label the past, present, and future. Does “in a minute” mean sixty seconds? When is “later” exactly? What is “in good time” because I’m frustrated, and my Merriam-Webster is no help. It says time is a nonspatial continuum.

You share a nonspatial continuum with your horse.

Does that feel different? Do you draw a blank? Your horse softens his poll and thinks that’s an improvement already.

Working with horses will always take as much time as it takes. Each individual horse is a composition of their unique intellect and experience. One technique will not work on all horses because horses are reading at our intent balanced with our anxiety. The old adage is that horses can tell when we’re afraid but horses sense our anxiety might be closer to the truth. Just like a horse tenses when herdmates spook, could your horse be mirroring your anxiety? Does your horse read your angst about time but think it’s frustration with him? Does checking your watch send an unsettling nebulous warning? Does he freeze a bit or act distracted? Is he giving you a calming signal because you are sending conflicting messages, both pleased with his work but anxiously aware you’re late on your schedule?

How did a nonspatial continuum become so alarming? Could time be the invisible thing your horse spooks at? If you had all the time you needed, would you still feel impatient? Try an experiment: Change the idea of time and see what happens.

Four ways to alter time to benefit your horse:

  1. Prepare ahead. It’s boring and dorky and Type-A but take the time to think through what you need. It takes longer to run back for the things you forgot. Do the same with your mental preparations; avoid needing to stop and start because you don’t have a clear idea about what you want. More important than the details, your horse reads an affirmative message when you are steady. When the work begins on the ground or in the saddle, mentally prepare for each transition ahead. It isn’t fair to expect a good answer if you haven’t set up the opportunity for him to respond calmly.
  2. Go slow. It’s counter-intuitive but do you notice when tension happens? Is it when you speed up, giving in to impatience? When you look at a horse doing impeccable work, it’s because the task was trained in small pieces, one step at a time. Be satisfied with a good effort. Greed reads as anxiety, too. Instead, make time a gift. Once you make a habit of being steady and consistent, your horse can trust you, so what looked like work becomes play. You are building a lifelong relationship; investing in a solid foundation is worth every second.
  3. No corrections. Instead of looking at the last thing, judging it poorly, and dragging failure along, just let it go. Prepare better next time and ignore the rest. Don’t let anything kill the rhythm of your body and your horse’s forward movement. Time spent being adversarial toward yourself or your horse, even mentally, is wasted effort.
  4. Take back control of your time. Don’t let a clock steal you from your horse. Talk less, it’s only chatter in your head distracting you. Let the air be still and time will languish there. Breathe deeply and let your horse answer with his breath. The real conversation starts here. Take five minutes and stretch it out, each second limitless. Have a calm confidence that you both have all you need, perfect right now. Let your horse settle, give him the freedom to reason his answer. Let yourself be peacefully present in each instant, interested in what he has to say. Let this moment become infinite. Hold steady for him now and become his proud legacy for others.

We’ve all lost time with horses. We start grooming and wake up from a circular trance an hour later with soft shoulders, mentally revived. We’ve spent three hours mucking after two horses and come away with a half-full muck cart and a sense of peace. Most of us can look at a photo of a horse and be lifted by his beauty. We are the very definition of a nonspatial continuum. Loving horses is the easiest thing we do. It’s our job to repurpose those timeless moments into our training sessions to benefit the confidence and well-being of our horses. It’s our job to give back in kind and complete the circle.

Anna Blake for Relaxed & Forward 

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14 thoughts on “Altering Time to Benefit Your Horse”

  1. I lived with someone – for awhile – who used to tell me when I was getting ready to do something with my horses that might take some time – he wanted me back in a certain amount of time. I had to tell him that I didn’t know how long I’d be occupied and that I’d be done when I was done, not when HE prescribed. Sometimes it worked out – sometimes it didn’t. I liked it better when it didn’t. Yes, I had issues with this person. HA!

  2. Anna,
    I am sending this to my Oxford University group as this can be applied to other areas of life.
    Thank you — it’s a wonderful piece.
    When we spend 3-4 hours with our two horses, toward the sunset of that time, I notice the Thoroughbred
    seems a little sad — just something in his expression. He knows we are preparing to leave.
    When we arrive, he trots into his (always open) stall and gives a long sigh. It’s his welcome.
    You are here to spend time.

  3. Reading this piece felt like I fell into a waterbed and became swept up in the sense of it all. Though, I must say my guys have always had the ability to bring me into their world of nonspatial continuum, to which I always surrender. Thanks, Anna.

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  5. Your posts always make me cheer! Great job highlighting an important and so easy to forget principle.

    Our barn motto is “festina lente” – translated as ‘make haste slowly’. Or as an old timer used to say when working on something potentially tough “gonna have to take yer watch off on this one”. One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received!


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