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Photo Challenge: Chaos

There's a kind of grace in the slippery unbalance of chaos when I remember it's only the rear entrance of...
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Bite Your Tongue.

It's an election year and I'm a politics geek. There, I said it. But the rhetoric is deafening. Sometimes there...
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Riding the Inside of Your Horse

When I was just a dressage-princess-wannabe, before I became a full-blown Dressage Queen, I thought dressage riders all wore a kind...
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A Serenity Prayer For Both of You

The seasons are changing and the air feels cooler. That's what you notice, but your horse seems just a bit...
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The Truth Behind Bit Drama

Do you know how your bit works? No, I mean really. Not some cowboy-on-YouTube's fantasy about horses needing to learn to carry...
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Ride Shorter, Progress Farther.

If I were to write a training book entitled Less is More, it would be hundreds of pages long. The...
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You're a Timid Rider?

What if it isn't a bad thing? I have a "big picture" thing I want to say and it's going...
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Serenity NOW! (Training Calmness)

She wrote, "I struggle with him to stand still. I suspect he recognizes I am nervous."I'm answering an email question...
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Halt, Rein-back, Cha-cha-cha.

This is how it feels: It's a trot that's resistance free. He glides with relaxed strides. At first you think...
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Judging Dressage

Dressage isn't perfect, but what part is baby and what part is bath water? Watching the Dressage competition at the...
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Weekly Photo Challenge: Morning

  The sun rises pale and delicious on the prairie. Take your coffee to the barn; baby pink clouds diffuse...
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How to Ride Creatively.

Riding a horse is the simplest thing in the world. Just point 'em and kick. What's so hard about that?...
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Defending Horses with Words and Money

Fair warning: I'm going to ask you to do a favor for horses. It will involve some of your time...
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Admitting You’re Wrong.

Do you remember the first time you wanted to be right? It might predate memory or even language. Being good...
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Reciprocity: A Softer Ask, a Softer Bend

I overheard some riders complaining like old campaigners. Asking a horse for bend sounded like the Hundred Years' War. They...
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How to Defuse a Horse Bomb

Maybe you're mentally arranging your to-do list, or rehashing an imaginary rant about something that happened at work, or just...
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Do You Inspire Your Horse?

Do you inspire your horse? Does he volunteer more than you ask? Are you proud of who you are in...
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What I Didn't Know Then

It seems that most things I learn about horses, I learn in hindsight. It's not a bad thing. Horses learn...
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