Reactive Dogs and Affirmative Peer Pressure

    Ruby lives with my friend, Lara. We both have reactive dogs who exploded our lives around the same time. But do not feel one crumb of sympathy for us. We gazed at our dogs, besotted. Even though, and let’s be honest, they were not easy for normal people to love. Lara says, “I … Read more

Intuition, Trust, and Horse Training

I’m thinking about trusting intuition. Or even recognizing intuition. Or comprehending trust, for that matter. Those words are made of hope or dread, nested in thin air. You can see right through them. What is the difference between intuition and a wish? How can a woman of a certain age trust the idea of trust? … Read more

False Spring and the Dying Gasp of Winter

Have you been hibernating? It’s a smart choice, but time to wake up. The geese are back. I’ve been courting Canada geese since moving to this farm. There is a trail of streams and ponds that crosses my Colorado prairie, enabling me to have rare waterfront property. I was thinking I’d be watching sunsets over … Read more

How Long Must Animals Suffer?

And yes, in Colorado it is perfectly legal. Warning: I’m writing about death because I hope to make peace. If you have had an exhausting week, please stop reading. I would hate to make people cry. But sometimes I need to talk it out to let it go. Some backstory: We live on a dirt … Read more

The January Manure Wars

I like to use farm implements for a couple of years after they first break down because I’m frugal. Think of it as recycling by stubborn over-use. I’ve been spreading horse manure over every inch of my farm for a few years. My small manure spreader rattles and hums in the summer, and pounds and … Read more

When Horses Ask For Help

She is a woman of a certain age. A retired wildlife biologist who wears Crocs when weather permits, and muck boots the rest of the time. She’s living her dream, a farm filled with rescue horses and dogs. She’s one of us. I think she’s taken every course I teach, and I’ve been to her … Read more

Calming Signals and Playing Poker with Horses.

I can’t remember my age when I first saw Dogs Playing Poker, the famous painting by Cassius Marcellus Coolidge. It portrays dogs smoking cigars and playing cards. I didn’t see the original, of course, but a copy painted on velvet. It still offended my little girl’s sensibilities. I didn’t think dogs should smoke. Or maybe … Read more

Count to Three and Jump… It’s a New Year

It’s the week between Christmas and New Years. And call it a holiday tradition, but I have no idea what day it is or even what year it is. I’m old enough that it feels like a year lasts about twenty minutes, but this year was the meanest twenty minutes ever. Looking back, it feels … Read more

Horsewomen and the Reverse Banana Peel Approach

Do you ever just stop in your tracks, look at your (insert your choice: horse, dog, child) and go blank? It’s like the music stopped halfway through the dance. It’s so quiet you could hear a clock ticking. You’re not sure what you were doing, but you have a feeling it was important. Of course, … Read more